Q: I’m a guy, 33, who began dating a female, 30, more than an ago year. We go along very well, share some typical passions and also do our own things (we tennis, she’s a runner).
We started residing together final February ahead of the pending lockdown, we were in love and would have a future together because we both felt.
Now, there’s been a astonishing improvement in our situation. My partner has gotten a prestigious work offer in another an element of the nation. She states it is “too important” on her to reject it.
My task situation is precisely the thing I want and enjoy, therefore I’m very reluctant to think about going. She states that her brand new job’s a fantasy possibility she can’t miss seizing.
Performs this suggest her “love” for me personally ended up being just real if as soon as everything’s convenient? And today for her to stay with me where we are — and where she already has a job she seemed to enjoy — she can just toss our love-relationship away that it’s not convenient?
A: You two gotten that are may’ve very well whenever everything ended up being clicking along smoothly. But neither of you understand how to manage a challenge.
We get it on you suddenly and seemed already certain about moving far away that she sprung this news. That has been hurtful, and unwise.
She apparently thought you can also welcome a noticeable modification of scene and work opportunity. Particularly when it indicates being together.
However you’ve been settled and protected, which means that your reaction that is first is dismiss the theory.
Here’s another approach: You’re both still young enough, and without kiddies up to now, to at the very least think about several opportunities: